Well thank you for clarifying that. I'm glad you came back. I'm sorry that happens to you and I thank you for coming back around..... hope you where able to get through that entire long post...
sorry I can be long winded sometimes... and a pain sometimes....
I did see a typo of my own on this reread...I wrote MY guilt when I meant MOM guilt.
NOT( My)(should be(MOM)) guilt is WAY WORSE than regular guilt because we try so hard in every way to teach our children well.... to grow up to be a happy, well- rounded, SUSCESSFUL ADULT....and we constantly worry not only about what we screw up, but how our child's life might go to hell in a hand basket through fault of absolutely no one just stupid luck.... me reason to me of why having a village for my son is so important to me. However I respect your views.... I bet your a pretty successful guy compared to me....happy trails!!
Success boils down to degrees, I think. While I may be more satisfied with my career (and I'm not even saying that I am, I just know that I'm relatively happy with my job and enjoy the benefits that come with it) I can almost guarantee my social life and emotional intelligence is probably in shambles compared to yours.
It's part of why I enjoy these forums so much.
Venting your thought's is enough. Stephy is the one that finally will make the decisions.
And opening your thought's to other's does help. But essentially you can only change and help yourself. We are simply offering support , advice (good or bad) or venting our own experience's.
You btw are a very kind person, otherwise you would not posted these replies
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I'm not here to tell anybody what to do or how to act.
I'll forever maintain sovereignty over how I conduct myself and the people I choose to interact with, however.
I've always felt the best I can offer a person is a perspective they may not yet have considered. "Outside-the-box" thinking. There's something intriguing to me about discovering how a person thinks, how they approach a problem, and then presenting them with a perspective that seems absent from their thought processes.
At the end of the day it seems like I'm a contrarian, but really I'm not trying to go against the grain for the hell of it-- I just like to attack a problem from all angles and then I have fun with thinking of new angles. Before you know it I've been on the fence for three days and still can't figure out which why I lean, then somebody pokes fun or speaks sideways and my already-rattled brain instantly hones in on a new threat that's so much clearer and easier to confront than it is to deal with my chaotic mind.
And that, ladies and gentlemen, is my anxiety in a nutshell.
(I also want to point out that I think this is a self-growth moment, emkee. I've never put those thoughts into words before. Now that I have and they're sitting here in front of me, i've read over what I just posted countless times in a sort of reverence, just amazed at how true they ring and how, for the first time I've ever experienced, this idea specifically was so clear and simple to write out.
That doesn't happen often, man.)