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skipjames said:
well, in neo pentecostal megachurches people believe that the more money they give to "God" (to the pastor) the more there will be a miracle in their life, some people in need (emotional in the case of your former client) will believe anything. The only thing I miss of when I was a broke as a joke post grad student with an H problem is that...if someone was sleeping-dating me, it was definitely NOT for the money, because there was none . Anyway, I m sure that to do this job you really have to set boundaries. I just wonder how hard can it be having a good time with someone, having sex and fun etc, and not develop if not love some form of affection. In my 20´s I used to fall in love every two weeks so I don t count, but I guess that even two no nonsense sex worker and costumer develop some form of bonding, did u?
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There was definitely a certain level of bonding that occurred between me and a few clients, nothing close to falling in love with them tho lol
 
pharaoh said:
Speaking of Catholicism, the experience I mentioned was/is a great source of guilt and shame for me. It wasn't the morality of sex work in itself that had me feeling this way, it is due to the fact that the woman was obviously trafficked and was obviously kept against her will, even though she said that she could "leave any time". But this was one of the prominent Balkan mafia organised crime groups here and I found this out very quickly as it was obvious (dude waiting outside in an Audi the whole time, pretty sure he was holding the drugs too. Naively I just called up one of the first numbers that returned an "escort service" so now I know that the only way to really do it and have certainty about it is by contacting someone who works for themselves and is OK with what they are doing.

I couldn't have sex with a "sex worker" who had been trafficked into the country - I hoped that giving her a "break" was at least preferable to her. I dunno, it was pretty horrible. I was already skeptical about being pro sex work (at least unconditionally due to the fact that every sex worker I knew personally was doing it to feed an addiction and hated it - not saying that this is always the case of course) and this experience really put me off. I've known about it, read about it and all that but seeing it is different. Looking at a person who has been through that, all for the profit of some greedy gangster scumbags. Fuck that. Heartbreaking actually when I think back on it. The woman was utterly beautiful, incredibly naive and a very long way from home. Naturally I wanted to save her which is of course a common thing anyway when it comes to sex workers and their clients.

But yeah, there's a great joke there: a Catholic, a Marxist and a Conservative walk into a brothel...
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I was baptized catholic lol.
 
SoCalShordie said:
I was baptized catholic lol.
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I mean this in the nicest possible way but so many of the sexiest and freakiest women I've known, been with and messed around with were (very much lapse) Catholic. Or from Catholic stock at least.

God is watching!
 
I don't know if you understand Catholicism. Guilt is drummed into you from day one. It is built around guilt, original sin and so on. Catholic guilt is an issue with people who are long lapsed because it is drummed in during childhood. I reckon that the kinkiness comes from our inherent instinct to rebel but preachy preach will have you saying Hail Marys because the devil might be leading you into temptation.

The idea of it being good for ridding oneself of guilt via Catholicism is a bit of a misconception really because the guilt is always there. You're speaking about absolution and being absolved of a sin but your sin is always before you and all that. Without the guilt about everything always being there, there would be no need for absolution.

In the lasted installment of the Trainspotting series by Irvine Welsh, Sick Boy advises his son to get in touch with his Catholicism as it can help him get away with things but this is more ironic commentary on Sick Boy's character, essentially a kind of sociopath but obviously still with that Catholic guilt humming away in his soul.
 
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FindingSobriety said:
Think you’d be surprised…
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Give us some clues then. I happen to be a high level executive in a mid-to-high range yet highly lucrative crab meat export company in Baltimore, does that count?

I'm a big deal on the east coast at least.
 
@Jen X that is a good question. In the rare occasions I watch porn, I like seeing women going mad with their booty holes and there is no way they can do some of that stuff without a lot of cocaine and I'm sure a lot of painkillers. I'd like to add on @SoCalShordie : is there any question of shame about your past? Not other in terms of other people's opinions because fuck them but have you ever had to deal with those kinds of feelings yourself? Or regrets? Are you clean in your post sex work life?

@FindingSobriety does someone have to be an A-lister to have partied with Chas Sheen in Malibu or LA/Hollyweird? Not saying that there aren't other "stars" on here (hate that term) but surely anyone in the drug and sex game would have had a probable chance of crossing his path given his lifestyle? I wouldn't be surprised if he'd partied on skidrow flanked by some bodyguards and had everyone sign NDAs whilst chucking them a few grand after scoring some rocks and God knows what else.

EDIT: If you were implying that you partied with Crazy Sheen then no disrespect intended, I was just thinking that he has probs messed around with people from the top and down to the lowdown. I suppose it could be anyone.
 
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pharaoh said:
@FindingSobriety does someone have to be an A-lister to have partied with Chas Sheen in Malibu or LA/Hollyweird? Not saying that there aren't other "stars" on here (hate that term) but surely anyone in the drug and sex game would have had a probable chance of crossing his path given his lifestyle? I wouldn't be surprised if he'd partied on skidrow flanked by some bodyguards and had everyone sign NDAs whilst chucking them a few grand after scoring some rocks and God knows what else.
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LMAO, good point, lol. I just meant there are other “VIP’s” on Bluelight who have most likely partied with Charlie.
pharaoh said:
EDIT: If you were implying that you partied with Crazy Sheen then no disrespect intended, I was just thinking that he has probs messed around with people from the top and down to the lowdown. I suppose it could be anyone.
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Nah, I’ve never partied with him.
 
FindingSobriety said:
LMAO, good point, lol. I just meant there are other “VIP’s” on Bluelight who have most likely partied with Charlie.

Nah, I’ve never partied with him.
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You think you would have back in the day? I've wondered what women's perspective of him was. No doubt he was a good looking dude in his day.
 
pharaoh said:
@Jen X that is a good question. In the rare occasions I watch porn, I like seeing women going mad with their booty holes and there is no way they can do some of that stuff without a lot of cocaine and I'm sure a lot of painkillers. I'd like to add on @SoCalShordie : is there any question of shame about your past? Not other in terms of other people's opinions because fuck them but have you ever had to deal with those kinds of feelings yourself? Or regrets? Are you clean in your post sex work life?

@FindingSobriety does someone have to be an A-lister to have partied with Chas Sheen in Malibu or LA/Hollyweird? Not saying that there aren't other "stars" on here (hate that term) but surely anyone in the drug and sex game would have had a probable chance of crossing his path given his lifestyle? I wouldn't be surprised if he'd partied on skidrow flanked by some bodyguards and had everyone sign NDAs whilst chucking them a few grand after scoring some rocks and God knows what else.

EDIT: If you were implying that you partied with Crazy Sheen then no disrespect intended, I was just thinking that he has probs messed around with people from the top and down to the lowdown. I suppose it could be anyone.
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I have no regrets. Every decision and every wrong turn has led me to become the woman I am now. I’m grateful for everything I’ve been through and experienced.
 
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