vibr8tor said:
The child psychiatrist I used to work with said something similar- that the *ONLY* time spanking is beneficial ...
That child psychiatrist should have been fired as soon as he uttered those words. I wouldn't even let him finish the sentence. Back to school for that idiot and hopefully on to a new profession.
up all night said:
I will almost definitely smack my children.
Why not get a dog first and practice on
it. See if you enjoy the way it flinches every time you go to... caress it. If you end up enjoying the "positive" results your spanking is producing on the pup, then by all means go ahead and make a mini-me.
Spanking is for weak minded parents who can't bother taking the time to learn how to communicate with their offspring in the preferred chosen form of communication of the human species. They sure take the time to learn how to communicate effectively with everyone else around them, without a need for that "special occasion" smack. But no, their own kids are "special". They reserve those "special occasion" smacks for their kids because they LOVE them. 8)
Before you smack your kids, think for a second. If I was babysitting your child and I didn't like what the child was doing and I had a problem communicating with the child and went ahead and smacked him/her... every time I deemed it necessary, what would you say? Would you be upset? Would you let me babysit the child again? Yes? Okay then, if you would, then I would continue to smack, slap or spank the child whenever I deemed it necessary, within reason of course,
my reason. What would you say or do then?
I would wager heavy money that you would take your child away and never let me near him/her again. I would wager big money that you would probably press charges against me for assault or child abuse. I would ask you then - "Why? Why are you doing this to me?". You would invariably answer something to the tune of "Who gave you the right to lay a hand on
my child!".
Well... Who gave
you the right to touch
any child? Why are you punishing them for your own damn stupidity? Because they're yours?
I think anyone who is planning on spanking their children even before they've had the children should stick with that dog idea instead. Much better for the healthy evolution of our species' preferred communication - language.